When Life B*tch Slaps You

We’ve all been there.

Life just B*TCH SLAPPED you

HARD across the face

.and it sucks.

You hate your job,

you’re broke,

broken hearted,

packed on a few pounds….

who knows…..

but all you know is that

when you look in the mirror you just don’t feel good,

and even worse,

you just don’t feel good about life.

You feel humiliated by life

and it doesn't get any lower than this.

So what do you do?

Here’s the top 10 essential things you need to know when the going gets rough:

1. You got slapped once, but next time you'll duck

So you took a beating....

who doesn't from time to time?

The main thing you gotta remember is that

this is your chance now to move on from it.

Rather than wishing for something else

or worrying about how it should've been or why it even happened,

don't waste any more time dwelling on the bitch slap and move on.

Like Byron Katie says, every time you argue with life you lose 100% of the time

Because you'll never be able to change the facts,

go back in time,

or get your version of what you think "is fair".

 You lose 100% of the time, so why waste any more time on this?

You can't control everything that happens to you,

you can only control the way you respond to what happens.

In your response is your power.

How you react is gonna determine whether you'll be able to duck next time.

How you react is a strong prediction of how well you're gonna bounce back

and if you'll be in a better position next time.

See it as a lesson,

see it as a necessary step for growth,

and pretty soon you'll be proud of the way you handled that bitch slap- without even batting an eye.

Learn how to handle yourself and next time you won't be complaining about no bitch slap.

It didn't handle you, you handled it, and therein lies the lesson.

2. The sting will fade

Things change sooner than you think.

You’re not going to avoid change.

Change is the constant in life we can depend on.

The words you just read on this page just changed.

Every single minute of our lives, every second, something changes.

However good or bad, things change.

That’s the one thing you can count on.

So savour the good times when you have them,

because.....things change.

And in bad times remember,

it will get better because.....

things change.

So knowing that,

now you have to get clear on how you're gonna move forward from this mess.

Once you get clear on what positive changes you're gonna make in your life to replace the bad ones,

only then can you have something that feels real and possible to you.

Other people’s negativity isn’t worth worrying about.

Truth be told,

what others say and do,

and the opinions they have,

are based entirely on their own self-reflection.

Don’t take things too personally.

3. Man Up

Before you can change anything, you have to man up and

take responsibility first.

Otherwise it's an endless blame game,

and you'll just end up get bitch slapped

even harder next time..

is that what you want?

Of course not.

So stop blaming others for what you’re going through

and take the hit.

That's right, own it.

You got yourself into this mess but now you're gonna get yourself out,

once you man up all the power is yours.

Remember this.  You can’t have a powerful life with a powerless attitude.

Or a positive life with a negative attitude.

By maning up you're taking full responsibility of your life and taking back your power.

Lastly, when it comes to other people talking.

Maning up means giving Zero Fucks about that.

Truth be told,

what others say and do,

that's their business and all on them.

Maning up means doing you

and not worrying about what anyone else has to say about it.

4. Don't be mad, get better

Part of maning up is realizing that getting angry isn't gonna do you any good.

Maning up means you don't get angry,

you get better.

So let go of the anger

cause you know that shit's poison anyway,

forgive,

move on,

and do it better next time.

Even if they never ask you for forgiveness,

do it anyways

because in the long run it's gonna do more good for you than them anyways.

You're strong enough to rise above this,

you got this.

You're strong enough to know that whatever happened isn't a reflection of you,

so don't let a temporary bitch slap transform you into someone you're not.

Your struggles are the path.

You are not what you have done,

you are what you have overcome.

When you learn from failure you're moving forward.

Check out Thomas Edison,

the dude famously said,

In other words, he believed he never once failed at inventing the light bulb,

he just first found thousands of ways that it didn’t work,

which led him to the one way that did.

Most people would think "that shit is whack!"

but nah, the guy was epic and

it's thinking like that which got him down in history.

4. You have an embarrassing mark on your face, you might as well learn from it

Finding the lesson is the key.

Not based on what other people think,

but based on what you think and come to get out of it.

Everyone has their own challenges…

everyone has their own journey.

So why compare your stuff against someone else?

Doesn't make sense does it?

You don't know their shit, just like they don't know yours.

It may look like apples to apples,

but for all you know it's apples to dragon fruit.

The only person you should try to be competing against, is the person you were yesterday.

You've heard this one before.

Now take a long at yourself....

you just got bitch slapped hard...

but look at you, still standing.

Still hustling,

trying to make it all better,

even when the going gets rough.

Doesn't that tell you something?

It sure as fuck should.

You're worth betting on.

 You just got bitch slapped and you didn't get KO'd.

Nah, you're better than that, you're still standing, hell yeah!

Get what you need to get out of the bitch slap,

then pat yourself on the back for moving on

and being better than a bitch slap.

5. At least you didn't get your teeth knocked out

Ever stop and think about that?

I bet you didn't huh.

Listen up, it could always be worse.

So just remember someone has it worse than you, like WAY worse

so just be grateful you're not in their shoes

and start appreciating a little more of what you do have.

There is always, always, always something to be thankful for.

Bitch you're still here aren't you?

Still standing?

Still breathing?

Yeah that's right.

I mean look, no one likes to get punched in the face

but it's those rough times that help you appreciate the good times.

If everything was always smooth and perfect, you’d get too used to that, you know?

Then you wouldn't even notice how good things are actually going for you.

Remember being a kid and having those long summer holidays?

How you'd get bored and shit with all your free time?

I bet your adult self is smacking your 8 year old self in the face now!

See everyone needs a little chaos in their life from time to time.

Otherwise you'll never really enjoy it when things go right.

Why do all the rappers rhyme rap songs about

"starting from the bottom now we here" (thanks Drake),

it's cause we appreciate them so much more seeing them coming out of struggle.

Remember Biggie?

"Birthdays was the worst days,

now we sip champagne

when we thirsty"....

damn that hits home.

We've been through the struggles and now we here, it's worth celebrating.

All the small shit along the way is worth celebrating.

Don't forget it– remind yourself:

it’s all the small things that make a big life.

Great things take time and just remember,

at least you didn't get your teeth knocked out,

you're still standing.

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  • Kat Heart Conscious Entrepreneurs

    Yeah I hear that….been there! I’ve felt like a failure…a couple times in my life actually.

    I think we almost always end up feeling like a “failure” when our life reality doesn’t match up to our life vision (what we had imagined for ourselves).

    I know this is how I felt when I finished Uni (majored in Finance) and I went out into the “real world” but still wasn’t happy doing a corporate gig.

    It was like a sense of disillusionment.

    It’s strong feelings like these that deserve a closer examination and reflection.

    I’d love to share more about this if it interests you and others on here?…and if there is a better way I can serve you (?), let me know about that too.

    Thanks for sharing, it’s not easy to admit it but when we do we see that we’re not alone and there’s a way to get out of it.

    Hope to hear back 🙂

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  • Kat Dominguez

    Que lindas palabras Heydi! Mil gracias por leer estos pensamientos que deseo compartir con todo mundo. Definitivamente son las experiencias de mi vida que me han hecho la persona que soy ahora y las lecciones de la vida que me dan mas conocimiento.

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  • Heydi

    Sinceramente no recuerdo que buscaba antes de toparme con esto, felicidades Kat me has hecho reflexionar muchísimo con tus letras , admiro tu perspectiva y me parece bien acertada , supongo que las experiencias de vida te han servido en grande.Al igual que Anthony estoy salvando el link por si un día decido volver a el , esa vez si sabré lo que busco…..Saludos desde Cuba…Grettings from Cuba.

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